When we last met [in 2010], you had just announced your engagement to Bruce Rockowitz after a seven-year courtship. What’s it like being a married woman?
Incredible! I never imagined I’d get married. Before I met Bruce there was only work and family in my life – I was a workaholic. Now, as a married woman, I still get to do what I’m passionate about. I’m in a very blissful state.
Has marriage changed you?
The only difference is a comfort level that I never knew could exist between a man and a woman. I now know that when we disagree about something, we will still be together tomorrow. We are each other’s best friends. He’s my pillar and I’m his best listener.
Are you are still working as hard?
As a performer and recording artist there’s a huge load, which is hard on Bruce. I’m constantly away. There are a lot of shows; it seems like every weekend I’m in China doing a concert. It’s good for me, of course – I’m hot at the moment, which is the greatest feeling! – but I do have to sacrifice time with Bruce. He sometimes flies in for a show, and if he is in New York on business I may fly over for a few days to join him. We have promised each other never to be apart for more than 10 days.
"I believe it’s very important for married women to have a career or something they are passionate about.Women nowadays are not subservient to men."
He doesn’t have a problem with you working so much?
No, he understands that I’ve had my career for a long time, that it’s my passion and it wouldn’t be fair if I had to drop it. The new generation of women is very strong and independent. I believe it’s very important for married women to have a career or something they are passionate about. It brings conservation topics to the dinner table, it keeps things interesting. Women nowadays are not subservient to men; they have careers when they are married and have children.
I wasn’t going to bring that subject up, but as you mentioned it are you and Bruce going to have children? [Rockowitz has two daughters from a previous marriage.]
[Laughs] It’s up to me, and up to God. I don’t know. At the moment I’m focusing on work.
So you are happy being on the road so much . . .
Seeing my fans in all the different cities in China is a big thrill for me. They are excited to see me in person and I’m always happy to take pictures with them – it makes their day.
There was one scary incident in Nanjing recently though. I was woken at 3am by the sound of someone trying to get into my hotel room. I called my manager in case she’d left something in my room and was trying to get in, but it wasn’t her. The noise went away, but 10 minutes later it was back – and much louder; it was like someone was trying to break down my door. I called the front desk but by the time they came up to check there was no-one there. I was really shaken.
In the morning I found that my door was almost off its hinges – thank goodness for the inside lock. After checking the surveillance cameras, the hotel reported that the disturbance was caused by two drunken guys, who had mistakenly thought it was their room and had tried to force their way in. The lesson here is always to activate the indoor look on your hotel door, especially if you are a woman staying alone.
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